6.09.2015

Breaks over.


I've had a little break.

It wasn't really intentional.

If you follow my blog though you will understand that time is tight with my crazy little dudes anyway. However, that hasn't been the whole issue. I feel it is a bit of an elephant in the room ...or blog now. I've gone back and forth on whether to write it or not but I think I have to air it and start fresh.




Soooo I've had a troll or maybe trolls...is there a plural for that? Unfortunately not the cute naked toy ones with a luminous Mohawk. A troll is person like you and me but instead of getting on with their own life they sit and read what other people do or say on social media and go out of their way to then bitch about it, spread rumours and/or send mean (and often untrue) comments. Now back in the day, they would probably be just called a nasty piece of work or maybe a saddo but this century has given us an amazing platform to connect and share our lives with people, so it's made this all a lot easier for the now coined "Trolls" and often anonymous at that.  They especially love bloggers, who obviously share the most, it's their ultimate cheat meal to feed the jealousy or as Wiki more professionally describes. An Internet Troll: is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking into an emotional response, or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

Now I get that some people don't understand blogging, my own husband doesn't feature heavily here because he's not into social media and I respect that, the same way as you couldn't pay me to watch football or keep an allotment; we respect each other. I've also documented well that I have struggled with dyslexia my whole life so yes I'm aware my grammer isn't the best but that is not what it's about to me, just because I'm not a chef doesn't mean I don't love to cook. It's just like any hobby, I do it because I enjoy it. However, I've thought hard the past few weeks about what I get from blogging and is it worth negativity? 

Well for a start:
It keeps my brain active, as its mostly age 5 and under conversation round here. 
I get to connect with (usually) adults and like minded people. 
I get to document my life especially my children and the little things that may go unnoticed.
I live a more intentional life. 
I question myself more. 
I get to vent. 
I get to try and see the funny side but mostly, I get to try new things and meet new people. 

I really never thought that could upset anyone especially as I have hand on heart not intentionally done that ever and tried at all costs to avoid controversial topics.

To be fair, in a way It is quite flattering because it's been said if you don't have a blog troll you're not doing it right. Sadly I am by no means alone though, in fact in the past few months quite a few of my bloggy pals have been experiencing some form of unfair nastiness to the point where my friend Emma over at the incredible blog Life at the Little Wood received anonymous hate mail to her actual home....WOAH WOAH now this is the point where I had to call quits on my vow of silence. WTAF? I have absolutely no idea why someone one would take the time to be cruel and negative towards another. If you have any time or energy left surely, be kind, compliment, support, inspire, encourage, say sorry, send love, good vibes, go the extra mile for them but don't hate and be jealous or just quickly move along and don't come back. I'm too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener. I really don't get the hate but I'm relieved because it means I'm not like them. If it upsets you so much DON'T READ IT.

Not to mention,



 When I get posts like this....not going to lie it makes my day; I've never had another hobby that helped others raise money for charity! This is just my little corner of the world, a bit of my life and I love it, so if you don't, I beg of you to jog on because I'm not going to stop.for.anyone.         


Ashlie xox





12 comments:

  1. Go Ashlie!! Brilliantly written and I'm so glad you've made such a great comeback! I'm excited to read and follow from now on pet xx

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    1. Thank you literally cant believe the people we have been exposed to. On wards and upwards xxx

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  2. So pleased you haven't quit - I love reading your posts. They always resonate with me and help me feel that we are all going through this parenting lark together. So sorry about your troll. I don't understand them either :-/ We can't let them win though x

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    1. Aw thank Sam coming for you that means the world. Lark is a marvellous word. xxx

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  3. Sorry to hear you've had a hard time. The internet can be awful. But don't give up. I'm dyslexic (couldn't spell my own name till I was 7) I don't 'get' grammar so don't let that worry you. Keep up with the posts I'm off to hunt down your brownie recipe!

    Katie x

    www.katiejaneonline.com

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    1. Thank you for those kind words! Nice to know I'm not alone. I worn you the brownies are gooooood, ive had to stop making them for us xxx

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  4. I seriously don't get what goes on in a troll's head! Glad you haven't let them win, your blog is a great read! X

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    1. Me either I dont have time to read many of the fab blogs out there never mind have time to be horrible. Thank you that means so much xxx

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  5. I love your blog, it never fails to make me laugh, it's so different to any other blog I read and when I see you've got a new post I'm always so excited to read it. Keep doing what you do, jealousy is an ugly thing xx

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    1. Aw thank you Chloe thats so nice, likewise! xxx

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  6. I feel
    Sorry for trolls, imagine your life being so empty you have nothing more to do than spew hatred? Good on you for not letting them win

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    1. Amen Gurrrrl! I barley have time to read other blogs and make nice comments never mind be horrible which is twice the effort! xxx

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